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The last time I went to a haunted house, it wasn’t pretty.

I was with my 13-year-old Little Sister (capitalized because we were matched through the Big Brothers Big Sisters program).  We went to Fright Fest at a local theme park together, and she begged me to go into the haunted house.

Fun fact: I absolutely hate haunted houses.

I can’t do them.  I can tell myself all I want how “it’s not real”, but deep inside there’s this lurking question of – but could it be real?

It’s 100% irrational, but – I’m okay with it.  It doesn’t affect me most of the time.

As we waited in line, I kept thinking, “It’ll be fine.  I’m a grown up.  She doesn’t seem scared – why should I be scared?”

I kept that positive attitude all the way until we actually walked into the haunted house.  Then panic set in, I shut my eyes as tight as I could, and grabbed on to the shirt of the poor guy in front of me for dear life.

P.S. No, I don’t know who he was.  That’s how terrified I was.

I panicked the whole way through and didn’t open my eyes even once.  Meanwhile, my Little Sister laughed and joked the whole time next to me (and thought it was particularly hilarious when I swore when one of the “monsters” snuck up and whispered in my ear).

This story brings me to the other day, when my husband and I talked about how we’d like to run a 5K together.

We originally talked about doing the Dirty Dash, but we unfortunately missed it.  When we went on Groupon to look for deals, my husband spotted a “haunted” 5K in October.  He begged me to sign up for it with him.

Long story short, we’re signed up to do it.

I’m really not sure how I’m going to handle it.  I’m not sure if I’m going to cling to my husband or run off and leave him in the dust.  Or if I’ll just ball up and cry.

On the plus side, I’m 90% sure it’ll be my best running time ever.

So why did I do it?

For starters, I think I need to get over being such a big baby.  It’s kind of ridiculous.

But for another, the thought of doing something so off-the-wall with my husband is super exciting.

Even though it’s months away, the planning + anticipation of it is giving us something to bond over… Which is something we’ve needed for a while.  I mean, other than bonding over a shared cluelessness of how to parent a toddler.

But signing up for something like this has totally breathed new life into our marriage this month and kicked us out of just “going through the motions” with each other.

And that’s the power of being adventurous with your spouse.

It kicks you out of the normal routine of sitting on the couch during your time together and asking, “I don’t know, what do you want to watch?” and settling in for yet another Forensic Files marathon (#dontjudge).

I know you don’t have a lot of time.  I know you’re both busy.

But try to find something new to do with your spouse.

Groupon is a great place to start.  We’ve tried lots of new things as a result, like a “ghost tour” and (for me) pole fitness classes – which are surprisingly fun, FYI.

And on top of the activities they have, there’s always discounted deals for restaurants we’ve never tried before (and possibly couldn’t afford otherwise.)

It’s awesome, because there are always ideas I never would have thought of on my own.  The offerings change from city to city, but I’ve always had good luck with Groupon, no matter where we’ve lived.

Regardless of how you choose what you’re going to do, just try something new.  Trust me when I say it’ll light a fire in your marriage. ?

P.S. I’m desperately in need of costume ideas.  Comment below and give me suggestions…. Pretty please?

Seriously love this. We're so in a rut of watching TV and eating junk food and it's just not fun anymore. We need to get out and do more as a couple!


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