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If you’re married to a LEO, you’ll want to check out these top books for police wives.  They’re full of the encouragement you need to live a happier life, plus advice on understanding your officer better.

Fun fact: I’m a huge bookworm.

Even though I read less since becoming a mom, I still read about 2-3 books a month.  It’s my favorite way to relax.  There’s nothing better than getting lost in a good story (especially with some chocolate ;))

And, personally, I need a break from the digital world for a while sometimes.

While my reading list usually consists of fiction books, I also rely on books to help with issues I’m facing in my life.  Whether I’m struggling with parenthood, my marriage, or life in general, it’s helpful to know I’m not alone.  And, of course, to get advice on how to improve my situation.

And I have to say… there are LOTS of fantastic books out there specifically about law enforcement life.  There are books that can help you improve your outlook on life, help you feel more connected to the law enforcement community around you, and even give you action steps on how to improve your relationship with your husband.

Whatever you’re struggling with right now, whether you’re a new police wife or you’ve been-there-done-that for a few years, you’ll find a book on this list that will help.

7 Essential Books for Police Wives To Read

The Crazy Lives of Police Wives by Carolyn Whiting

If you’re feeling alone as a police wife, this is a must read.  It’s full of stories from LEO wives from across North America sharing their experiences, insight, and their best advice to help encourage other police wives.

While this would be helpful for any police wife to read, I think it’d be especially useful if you’re new to police wife life.  The stories featured will help you get an idea of what you’re in for without overwhelming you.  It’s a nice “peek” into the world of law enforcement life.

It’s also comforting to know you won’t be alone in the challenges you face!

Plus, the proceeds from this book are donated to police-related charities.  By purchasing this book, you’re helping other police families, too!

The Crazy Lives of Police Wives is available for on Amazon


Under Fire: Marriage Through The Eyes of a Cop’s Wife by Kristi M. Neace

This book is written by Kristi Neace, the founder of The Crazy Lives of Police Wives.  It’s centered around the fact that marriage in general is under attack, and she states that’s especially true with law enforcement families because of their unusual stresses: specifically, things like lack of communication, crazy shifts, the overall stress of the job, missed events/holidays, and other things that most other couples don’t have to worry about.

She encourages police wives to recognize that there’s still hope, even when the odds of a successful police marriage are against you.  She focuses on helping you find the “glue” that will help your marriage weather any storm.

Under Fire is available on Amazon for $12.99.


Because I’m Suitable: The Journey of a Wife On Duty by Allison P. Uribe

This is written by the creator of Wives on Duty Ministries, Alison Uribe – so you KNOW this book is amazing.

It’s really aimed at helping all wives on duty, whether their husbands are law enforcement, fire, emergency services, or military.  If your spouse is someone who protects the general public at risk to themselves (and, you know, your schedule), this book is for you.

It’s all about her journey as a police wife and how God was able to transform her life when she handed it over to him.  She talks about discovering God’s plan for her and finding peace with the uncertainty.

I love this quote from the book’s snippet: “With marriages falling apart every day in the law enforcement community, there is no better time than now to fight for our marriages with God by our side. Who better to seek council and guidance from than the one who created marriage in the first place?” LOVE.

Because I’m Suitable is available on Amazon – be sure to check it out!


Bullets in the Washing Machine by Melissa Littles

Melissa Littles is the author of my favorite police wife blog post of all time (The Police Wife Life: Selfish is Not An Option), so I freaked out a little when I saw she’d come out with a book.

Like The Crazy Lives of Police Wives, this book talks about the daily struggles (and weird quirks) of police wife life through short stories and poems.  It’s super uplifting, focusing on the silver lining of all your everyday struggles.

It’s also a great resource to friends and family who don’t fully understand what your life is like, but would like to know more.  It’ll increase their understanding and help dispel their misconceptions about law enforcement in general.

Bullets in the Washing Machine is available for on Amazon.


I Love A Cop: What Police Families Need To Know by Ellen Kirschman

This is a seriously awesome resource for police families.  It’s written by Ellen Kirschman, a psychologist who’s worked with police officers for over 30 years.  She’s seen firsthand what police officers and their families go through!  And she gives practical ways to deal with the problems you’re facing.

She covers everything you’ll need to know about everything.  She’s frank and open about issues like alcohol abuse, domestic violence, and the different difficulties of women and minorities who are on the police force.  Which is awesome, because it’s actually the only book on this list which addresses those matters – so for LEO husbands, this is particularly well suited.

You can read it in order, cover-to-cover, for preparation for the future, or it can be used as a resource for when you’re facing a specific issue.

Its inclusivity and openness about every issue you might face makes it an awesome tool for any law enforcement family.

I Love A Cop is available on Amazon.

Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement by Kevin M. Gilmartin

Every time there’s a discussion about the best books for police wives, this one comes up.  Without fail.  It’s the most recommended one I’ve seen by far, and there’s good reason for that.

This book covers everything your whole family will face as a law enforcement family.  So it’s a great resource for you, but it doubles as an amazing resource for your husband, as well.  It can help him understand how law enforcement changes him, to know he’s not alone, and to understand what you go through as his wife.

It’s a great way for you and your husband to understand each other better and be prepared for every trial you might face as a police family.

Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement is available on Amazon


The Proverbs 31 Police Wife by Leah Everly

Okay, I’m shamelessly plugging this one… because it’s by yours truly. 😉 And I’m so excited to share it with you!

This one is a devotional all about how to apply the principles of the Proverbs 31 wife to your life as a police wife.  It was a scary labor of love to put out there, because it’s truly 179 pages of my heart.  But hundreds of women have loved it and been helped by it, so I hope it will help you too! 🙂

The Proverbs 31 Police Wife is available on Amazon.


While police wife life has a lot of challenges, these books are all wonderful resources to help you prepare for and cope with them.

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