There’s a lot of bad press about cops lately. Have you noticed? Who am I kidding: of course you have. It’s impossible to miss… unfortunately. There are countless articles that call the police power-hungry, over-militarized, trigger-happy, insensitive, and that’s just the tip of the iceberg.
If you’re anything like me, they strike a nerve (to say the least!)
You know your husband. You know his friends. You know them as people who feel called to law enforcement because they want to make the world a better place. You know how their jobs touch their hearts, even when they have a hard time showing it.
Sure, maybe they’re a little rough around the edges. Maybe they’re a little stubborn and hard headed, and occasionally they crack jokes at inappropriate times (cop humor, am I right?), but they definitely aren’t monsters. The accusations brought against them would be almost laughable if they weren’t so dangerous.
With that being said, I’d like you to consider something.
Your husband isn’t the first man to have his motives questioned. He’s not the first to be misrepresented and slandered. He’s certainly not the first to be treated unfairly. Christ felt all those things. He was perfect and innocent, yet called a liar, a blasphemer, and worse. He stood in the line of fire for us, even the ones who ended up taking his life. They didn’t appreciate it at the time, either.
When you see these articles decrying police as villains, try to remember who it is that truly sees and understands your husband.
Who sees when he puts himself on the line to protect others.
Who sees when he runs toward danger instead of running away.
Who sees when he cries out in prayer for those he’s met who are afflicted.
Who sees when he deals honestly with those who lie to him.
Who sees when he shows mercy to those who least deserve it, when a man who he’s arrested asks, “You must think I’m a piece of crap,” and he says, “I don’t. Everyone makes mistakes.”
When he does the right thing, not because anybody’s looking, but simply because it’s the right thing.
There is one on high who sees all these things and won’t forget them. Those good things will be rewarded eternally, and the things that are unfair will be made right a hundred times over. So don’t bother getting in a Facebook argument about the nature of the police force. Choose your battles wisely, and remember… Your husband isn’t the first man the world has hated.
Update 7/25/16: If you need more help dealing with the recent war on cops, I wrote another post here: How to Deal With the War on Cops As A Police Wife
I’m a twenty-something LEO wife and stay-at-home mom to a one-year-old little boy. I enjoy writing, reading, taking my son for walks and runs in the stroller, and crafting. My goal is for Love and Blues to be a resource for first responders and their families. I write about marriage and family topics, as well as about the quirks that come with being married to a man in law enforcement, firefighting, or emergency medical services.
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