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3 Reasons To Go To Church as a Law Enforcement Family (And How To Make It Happen)

Most people live for the weekend, celebrating Friday as the last day of the work week. Saturday is for sleeping in and resting, getting caught up on house and yard work, and spending time as a family. Sunday is another day of rest, and for many, it’s the day to go to church. 

We all know this isn’t the case for those who work the weekends. Friday is typically the busiest night of the week, Saturday is full of overtime opportunities, and Sunday is often just another day on the job. In the law enforcement field, someone always has to be at work. And that someone is often one of our husbands. 
 
It has always taken me a while to come to terms with the loss of the “typical” weekend. Sure, the days off are nice in the middle of the week and you won’t hear me complaining about having a three day weekend every week. But after three years of my husband working as a first responder and a police officer, I have done my fair share of “actual” weekends without him. 
 
One of the hardest parts of these weekends is getting myself and two kids under two to church.
 
Honestly, it would be so much easier to just stay home in our pajamas.

5 Elements of a Bulletproof Law Enforcement Marriage

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I remember the first time I saw my husband in his uniform.  It blew my mind.

I mean, not only did he look super handsome (there’s something to be said about a man in uniform, after all ;)) and he’d shaved his face completely for the first time since I’d known him, but it reminded me of the new person he was becoming.

That uniform signified the new power and responsibility he had.  It signified the commitment he’d made to protect and serve, no matter what it cost.  Whether the cost was just a much-needed day off, or his safety, or even his life.

But that uniform also reminded me that with that commitment, I was now second in his life.  Don’t get me wrong – when it’s his choice, I come first.  But when it’s not?  The job always comes first.  No matter whether I’m sick, no matter if we have a newborn… if the world needs him, he’s there.

It’s a lot like being married to Batman, I swear, and there’s nothing more frustrating than when I need my husband and that bat signal shows up and takes him away.

Because of all the sacrifices he has to make for the job, the statistic that we only have a 25% chance of making it is ever-present in my mind.  With every frustration I experience because of the job, I remember how important my marriage is to me.  Being one of the 75% of law enforcement marriages that doesn’t make it is not good enough for me.

Because you know what?  I’m determined.  I’m not one to just give up in the face of adversity.  In fact, the harder things get, the more determined I get to be successful.  I want to beat the odds, and whatever it takes, my marriage is worth it – especially now that we have kids.

At times, the statistics about law enforcement marriage have scared me.  Overall, though, they’ve been a catalyst to make me more careful, more intentional about caring for my marriage.  It forces me to realize that the marriage of my dreams isn’t going to happen by chance.  It’s going to happen because we worked for it.

If you want to divorce-proof your marriage, these 5 things are what you’ll want to focus on.

Free Printable Lollipop Wraps for Police Appreciation Week

Sometimes, my husband has days that just straight-up suck.

Granted, we all have those.  I have those.  But his sucky days always seem just a little suckier than my own. (How many times can I use the word “suck”?)

Seriously, though.  I might complain that our son would not. stop. throwing. tantrums. all day long, but when he gets home and has gotten into a fight with someone high on drugs or seen something he really, truly wishes he hadn’t, that pretty much takes the cake.

I can’t tell you how much I admire him (and his fellow officers) for the sacrifices they make.  I’m glad they’re willing and able to do the things I’m not.

So for police appreciation week, what better way to say thank you than with a little humor?

When The World Hates Your Husband

 

There’s a lot of bad press about cops lately.  Have you noticed?  Who am I kidding: of course you have. It’s impossible to miss… unfortunately.  There are countless articles that call the police power-hungry, over-militarized, trigger-happy, insensitive, and that’s just the tip of the iceberg.

If you’re anything like me, they strike a nerve (to say the least!)

You know your husband. You know his friends.  You know them as people who feel called to law enforcement because they want to make the world a better place.  You know how their jobs touch their hearts, even when they have a hard time showing it.

Thin Blue Line Cake Balls

My husband doesn’t have a lot of close friends, but he has one who’s been a constant ever since they first met.

He’s always there for us.  He was at our out-of-state wedding without hesitation.  When the Hubs was faced with the prospect of losing his job, Paul drove four hours to where we lived at the time just to be with us.  And then there’s the time he pulled our car out of a ditch after a snafu with AAA, or the time he helped us get rid of a mattress.

He’s awesome… even if A has a weird fear of him. Oh, well.  It won’t be long before Uncle Paul is his favorite and Mom and Dad are old news.

9 Weird Things LEO Wives Can Relate To

You know that phrase, “There’s something about a man in uniform”?  It’s totally true.

But it’s not just that they’re super attractive.  That “something” is also a little quirkiness that comes from sleep deprivation, a high-stress career, and quite frankly, close contact with some weird people.  Police officers live a weird life and we, as the women who love them, do so as well.

There are a lot of weird things you deal with as a police wife… but here are nine you might be able to relate to 🙂

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9 Happy Things To Tell Yourself Every Day

Fun fact:  I hate a lot of new-agey stuff.

I roll my eyes so hard when I see a lot of the example affirmations on Pinterest – “Money just flows to me”, for example.  Um, really?

I mean, it’s one of those “whatever floats your boat” type things for me, but I’m a little too stubborn and too much of a concrete fact-driven thinker.  It’s the same reason Hypnobirthing was a personal no-go (don’t tell me it doesn’t hurt! just tell me how to deal with the pain!)

However…. a good friend of mine got really into vision boards and affirmations and swears by it.

Where to Find Ideas for Art Journaling Pages

This is the third installment of my art journaling series.  If you’re just tuning in, here’s where to start and why.

So you’ve been art journaling for a few weeks, and suddenly you’ve hit a wall.  You’re in a rut.  You’re having a hard time thinking of new ideas for your pages.

Let me just tell you: I’ve been there too. You can tell, too, because there will be weeks after weeks of bubble letters and random color washes.  It happens; don’t give up!  Especially after art journaling for a while, it can be hard to think of new ideas.

So to keep things exciting and limiting the aforementioned bubble letters/color washes, here are a few sources of inspiration I use when I’m having trouble.

What Being a Mom Taught Me About God

When I was growing up, I really didn’t understand who God was supposed to be.  In my mind, He was a far-off cosmic phenomenon that I could wish upon, like a shooting star.  At times, He seemed alternately indifferent to and the cause of my struggles.

As I grew up and ran into trouble, I tried a lot of different methods to try to find happiness.  None of them worked.  At my wit’s end, I figured if there was a God, he was my last chance.  So, for the first time, I prayed.  I talked to God like I might talk to a friend.

And guess what?  He heard me.  He answered.  I found what I’d spent so much time looking for.

Since then, my faith has supported me through so many trials: from the day-to-day stresses of living, to worries about when we’d have a baby, to worries about how we’d support a baby, through the police academy, and everything since.

How to Start an Art Journal Even If You’re Not An Artist

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If you’re reading this page, I’m going to assume you accepted my invitation to give art journaling a shot.  I promise, you’re going to love it.

Wondering why you should start an art journal? Here’s why.  In that post, I mentioned all the reasons I love art journaling.

To recap:

  • It’s easy to keep up with.i
  • It encourages me to have a more positive outlook.
  • It helps me see prayers that have been answered.
  • It gives me a creative outlet.