Dear Police Recruit (A Letter to my Husband on his First Day)

Dear Police Recruit,

You looked so handsome this morning as I sent you out the door.

You tossed restlessly last night, and I laid next to you just thinking about all the new changes coming our way.

You woke up and showered and tied your tie in the bathroom mirror. We both smiled and exchanged those nervous glances. This is it!

You squared your shoulders and grabbed your lunch and then I kissed you goodbye.

It’s your first day at the police academy, and I am so, so proud of you.

Like a Broken Vessel: My Struggle With Anxiety

For those of you who don’t know, I’m a Mormon.  I don’t normally talk much about it, simply because it’s not usually that relevant to what I’m writing about.

Every six months, the church has a conference where we get to listen to the prophet and apostles speak.  It’s an edifying experience every time and somehow, whatever issue I’ve been wrestling with at the time, I’ll have new insight on the issue after watching.

There was one conference, however, where one of the messages made my heart drop.

It was David O. McKay speaking, and he talked about the importance of controlling your thoughts.

“Your thoughts are the architects of your destiny,” he said.

It’s a harmless idea, powerful even… but it terrified me.

5 Ways To Help Your Husband Eat Better

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My goal this year has been to clean up my eating and get into a better exercise regimen so I can be healthier and more confident.  I’ve done pretty well so far (yay!), but it made me realize how much my husband struggles with it.

I mean, he actually enjoys vegetables, and he’ll eat pretty much whatever I make for dinner (even if it’s hours later), so pickiness isn’t an issue: the issue is time.

And it’s not uncommon.  That whole donut-eating-cop stereotype has a lot to do with police officers not really having time to sit and have a relaxed mealtime.  They’re usually downing energy drinks and whatever food they can eat in a hurry before they’re needed again.

If You Want A Happy Marriage, It’s What You Do Daily That Matters.

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So, I want to talk to you guys about something: what you read versus reality.

I read this article the other day that compares a lot of the things you see on Pinterest (perfect homes, perfect families, etc) to porn, because it casues you to have unrealistic expectations of your life (much like porn causes you to have unrealistic expectations of sexual relationships).

I got to thinking about it because, every now and then, I get reader comments/emails saying what a wonderful wife I must be, and how I’ve inspired them.

Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate the compliment (and the latter part of it just about makes me cry every time), but I feel, lest I give the wrong impression, that I need to address something.

I’m really not a wonderful wife.

13 Inspiring Scriptures for Police Officers and Their Families

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When my husband was in the academy, he struggled a lot.  Even though he had always wanted to be a police officer, it was tough.  He had moments of doubt in his own abilities, and he had moments where he had to ask God whether he really was where he was supposed to be.

To encourage him, I bought him a small set of scriptures (similar to this) and highlighted any that I thought would help him with a blue highlighter.  I figured he could read them at the academy, then when he had his own car he could easily store them away since they were so compact.

It surprised me that there were so many verses that seemed to apply directly to law enforcement, and as I went through the pages and searched for them, I found more and more.  This project was inspiring for me, and has been helpful for him.

Surviving a 24: 6 Tips to Get Through your Husband’s 24 Hour Shift

My husband is the hardest worker I know. I don’t anyone else who is as diligent, thorough, and hard-working as him. He works hard at home with the kids and on many odd projects, but he also works incredibly hard at work.
 
For the last three years, he has worked at the fire department – and his shifts are 24 hours long.
 
Yes, twenty-four.

3 Ways To Develop Positive Body Image In Children: Guest Post

Becoming a mom has had a big impact on my New Year’s resolutions this year.

For one thing, I’ve never had a fitness/weight loss resolution before, but you know how it is post-pregnancy.  I just want things to fit properly again!

For another, because I have this particular resolution, it makes me think about the example I’m setting for my little guy.

The Book You Need To Read If You Struggle With Angry Parenting

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I’ll admit: this is going to be a hard post for me to write.  That’s because there’s going to be a lot of open acknowledgment of many, many of my shortcomings.  But I hope in doing so, I can help anyone else who’s dealing with the same thing.

I’ve struggled with anger for as long as I can remember.  Even as a kid, I had a short fuse and little patience for crap.  I’m dreading the day I have a child as stubborn as myself and my parents can laugh at the karma.

3 Ways To Be Your Husband’s Girlfriend Again

As a wife, it’s likely you wear a lot of hats.  For instance, here are a few of the roles I play at home:

  • Maid
  • Accountant
  • Chef
  • Receptionist
  • Childcare specialist
  • Secretary
  • Legal assistant
  • Lunch-maker

And there’s definitely more that I just can’t think of right now.  Of course, there’s one role I need to focus on a little more – and that is, being my husband’s girlfriend again.  I know that sounds silly – I mean, we’re married.  I’ll never just be his girlfriend.

PTSD In First Responders: The First 4 Steps To Take

Hey guys!  This is a guest post from Tatyanna of A Pop of Life on helping the one you love cope with the trauma they encounter as a first responder.  This is the first of hopefully several posts on the subject, because it’s an important one to address.  If you’re currently in this situation, I hope this helps you!

There is a call of duty that drives the bold and brave to sign up to become first responders. The job requires a dedication to the welfare and safety of members within the community. Individual needs are essentially put on the back burner. This bit of courage sometimes can result in unexpected consequences.  Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can present itself in the lives of first responders and their families long after the job has finished.

I’m a wife to a career soldier. How does this differ from being a wife to, let’s say, a banker, a businessman, or even a teacher? It means the possibility of post-traumatic stress is very real and probable in my husband’s line of work.  He has numerous tours under his belt which increase the likeliness of PTSD becoming a part of our lives. I’ve noticed a good deal of people try to shy away from the topic or even feel embarrassed to admit that it has become an issue within their family. This shouldn’t be the case.