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Category: Police Wife Life

3 Ways To Find Peace As A Police Wife

As another National Law Enforcement Memorial week comes to an end, it is hard not to reflect on the reality of the line of work my husband has chosen.

As I sit here writing this, there is an alert on my phone: another law enforcement officer was shot and killed.

As my husband slips on his black boots, this is what goes through my mind. Those boots are the sign it is time for him to go into the darkness to answer calls for help and stop those who are unlawful on his streets.

Each day as law enforcement officers leave their homes to hit the streets there are those who love them at home, wondering if that would be the last goodbye.

I am immensely proud of what the love of my life does for a living, but it’s definitely not easy. The daily roller coaster of feelings is quite often exhausting.

10 Ways To Rock Night Shifts As A Police Wife

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As a new police wife, I dreaded night shifts.

Don’t get me wrong – I’m an introvert who loves her alone time, and having the bed to myself is kind of luxurious, but night shifts got old quickly.  I’d pretty much spend the time watching Netflix and grumbling when there was nothing to watch.

Now, I recognize that it’s just part of this life.  It’s still sometimes hard (especially now that it means doing dinner, bathtime, and bedtime routines all by myself), but for the most part I love it.  I don’t really know what I’d do without it.

The key is to recognize that that time alone is the perfect opportunity for you to focus on taking care of and improving yourself – and then taking that time to intentionally do something for yourself.

I know as a police wife you spend a lot of time doing things to try to help your husband, but you might be surprised at the positive difference it’ll make in your marriage if you invest some time in yourself, too. 🙂

5 Books to Educate, Inspire, and Encourage Police Families

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As a rookie police wife, I felt like I didn’t have connections with other police wives yet, so I turned to books. Specifically, books that could relate to my current situation. Reading, especially while my husband was on shift helped me to deal with the situations we were facing. It also helped to paint a picture of what our life may look like later on down the road. It helped me feel connected to him, even when he was away.

For my husband, who wasn’t naturally an avid reader, he started reading a lot more when it was something he was passionate about. He enjoyed reading books about his career.  He gained a clearer insight to why things occurred, and he learned important statistics related to his job.

Fast forward almost 10 years and I am still reading books related to my police wife life, but now it’s a little different.  Now that we have children, finding books that relate to all of us is just as important.

To My Son Who Sees His Daddy As a Super Hero

To my sweet little boy,

I love how much you love your daddy.  Even though it sometimes pains me when you’ve been a butt for me all day and you’re an angel for him, I love the way the door opens and you drop everything and run to him, demanding he pick you up.  You wrap your arms around his neck and want to tell him all about your day.  He might not be able to understand a word of it, but it doesn’t matter.  You just want him to know all about the adventures you had that day.

When you see your dad, I know you’re seeing so much more.  You’re too young to really understand his job yet, but you know there’s something special about what he does.

Regardless, he’s your hero.

She is a Girl: Why your Husband’s Female Partner is your Ally, Not Your Enemy

It’s late.

He should have been home by now.

He said he was going out with the shift for a beer or two, but that doesn’t take three hours.

You check your phone.  Again, nothing.

You check Facebook to see if maybe there was a call that made them leave work late. Nope, still nothing.

You check other social media, you check your phone one more time, and you even spend a minute or two listening to that scanner app you downloaded a few months ago to no avail.

The fear that your husband is in imminent danger suddenly gives way to doubt when you remember the whole shift means the whole shift, including his new female partner.  Suddenly, the concern you had for your husband has turned into pure jealousy.

Now you think, he’d better have a darn good explanation for being late.

5 Things Being A Police Wife Taught Me About Life

Something about the last few days has made me contemplate where I used to be versus where I am now.

Maybe it’s because my son is about to turn two (where did the time go?), maybe it’s because I realized I’m now closer to 30 than I am to 20 (seriously, where the heck did it go?), or maybe it’s just because, well, I’ve grown a lot over the last year alone, let alone the last 5 and 10 years.

It’s amazing to look back at who I used to be and think of all the differences.  Just under 10 years ago, I moved out on my own for the first time.  I learned how to live alone, I learned how to manage my money, I worked all kinds of jobs and lived in my super small studio apartment that I was insanely proud of.

My husband was just my boyfriend at the time, and had barely started applying to police departments.

We had no idea what life had in store for us.  Looking back, I feel like we were just kids.

Dear Police Recruit (A Letter to my Husband on his First Day)

Dear Police Recruit,

You looked so handsome this morning as I sent you out the door.

You tossed restlessly last night, and I laid next to you just thinking about all the new changes coming our way.

You woke up and showered and tied your tie in the bathroom mirror. We both smiled and exchanged those nervous glances. This is it!

You squared your shoulders and grabbed your lunch and then I kissed you goodbye.

It’s your first day at the police academy, and I am so, so proud of you.

5 Must-Read Books for Police Wives (Plus An Update!)

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Since I’ve been feverishly working on writing my book (possibly a good choice of words, since I’m writing this with a stuffy nose and a fever right now ;)), I’ve been thinking about books for police wives… and man, there are some fantastic ones out there!

I wanted to showcase them all in a post for a few reasons:

  1. Seriously, they look incredible, and they deserve to be showcased.
  2. I hope one day my book will make it onto one of these lists – I guess I can start with adding it to my own when the time comes 🙂

Which reminds me: You all deserve an update!

7 Thoughtful Gift Ideas for Police Wives

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In my last post, I mentioned how hard men are to shop for.  Which is totally true…  But I also realize the flipside of that is that they tend to have a hard time shopping for women.

I mean, maybe not all – but I know my husband gets a little stuck on gift ideas for me.  And I figure if I’ve given you ladies a guide to help you shop, it’s only fair your husband gets a little assistance, too!

So even though I normally target my posts to you women – this time I’m talking to your husbands.  So go ahead and forward this to him if you think he might get stuck this year 😉

3 Ways To Have a Merry Christmas Without Your Husband

When you’re married to a first responder, you pretty much get used to doing things alone.  Trips with the kids, eating dinner, going to family events, etc.

But when Christmas comes around and your spouse has to work, that’s when his demanding schedule can get especially frustrating.  Whether that’s because he’s putting out house fires, pulling over drunk drivers, or because he’s battling overseas for his country, the holidays just aren’t meant to be spent alone.

But even if the holidays aren’t exactly what gets portrayed as the “perfect” family gathering, there are still plenty of ways to feel the joy of the holidays.