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24 Open When Letter Ideas for Police Officers

If you’ve been on Pinterest for any length of time (or been in a long distance relationship), you’ve probably heard of “open when” letters.  They’re letters you pre-write for a particular person for them to open when something special happens or they’re feeling happy/sad/lonely, whatever.

I LOVE them.  I think they’re such a fun idea, and they especially appeal to me since I like writing (hence the reason I blog :)) and they’re an inexpensive, meaningful gift idea.  I love homemade gifts, and one from the heart like this really appeals to me, especially because it can be enjoyed for a long time.

If you want to make a set, just choose however many you’d like to do (say, 5 or 10… or 24, if you’re really feeling motivated!) and write out the letters however you’d like.  You can type them or hand write them if you’d like, or type to get it all formatted, then copy it down in handwriting if you want to make sure it’s perfect (or if you’re okay with stuff being scratched out as you go, that’s fine too!)

Ending Locker Room Talk Starts At Home

Have you ever heard the saying, “a mouth like a sailor”? 

Well, I’m here to tell you that the saying should be updated to “mouth like a firefighter”. 
 
Our nation’s first responders are hardworking heroes. They work long shifts and often see humanity at it’s most vulnerable. They are quick on their feet and the first ones to arrive in someone’s time of need. They are professionals on the job, dressed in their uniform, trained to help in crisis and efficient wherever they are needed. 
 
But my husband recently let me in on a little secret: back at the station, all “hero/professional” vibes are off. Men who acted professional on scene are now able to relax, and the “locker room banter” is often free to flow. Since the firehouse is not a typical professional work environment, the firemen are able to relax, put their feet up, and speak uninhibited. From replaying work scenes, cussing every other word and speaking inappropriately about women (both in their lives and outside of it), the firehouse can quickly resemble a ship on the high seas, full of cussing sailors. 

If You Want A Happy Marriage, It’s What You Do Daily That Matters.

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So, I want to talk to you guys about something: what you read versus reality.

I read this article the other day that compares a lot of the things you see on Pinterest (perfect homes, perfect families, etc) to porn, because it casues you to have unrealistic expectations of your life (much like porn causes you to have unrealistic expectations of sexual relationships).

I got to thinking about it because, every now and then, I get reader comments/emails saying what a wonderful wife I must be, and how I’ve inspired them.

Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate the compliment (and the latter part of it just about makes me cry every time), but I feel, lest I give the wrong impression, that I need to address something.

I’m really not a wonderful wife.

3 Ways To Be Your Husband’s Girlfriend Again

As a wife, it’s likely you wear a lot of hats.  For instance, here are a few of the roles I play at home:

  • Maid
  • Accountant
  • Chef
  • Receptionist
  • Childcare specialist
  • Secretary
  • Legal assistant
  • Lunch-maker

And there’s definitely more that I just can’t think of right now.  Of course, there’s one role I need to focus on a little more – and that is, being my husband’s girlfriend again.  I know that sounds silly – I mean, we’re married.  I’ll never just be his girlfriend.

PTSD In First Responders: The First 4 Steps To Take

Hey guys!  This is a guest post from Tatyanna of A Pop of Life on helping the one you love cope with the trauma they encounter as a first responder.  This is the first of hopefully several posts on the subject, because it’s an important one to address.  If you’re currently in this situation, I hope this helps you!

There is a call of duty that drives the bold and brave to sign up to become first responders. The job requires a dedication to the welfare and safety of members within the community. Individual needs are essentially put on the back burner. This bit of courage sometimes can result in unexpected consequences.  Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can present itself in the lives of first responders and their families long after the job has finished.

I’m a wife to a career soldier. How does this differ from being a wife to, let’s say, a banker, a businessman, or even a teacher? It means the possibility of post-traumatic stress is very real and probable in my husband’s line of work.  He has numerous tours under his belt which increase the likeliness of PTSD becoming a part of our lives. I’ve noticed a good deal of people try to shy away from the topic or even feel embarrassed to admit that it has become an issue within their family. This shouldn’t be the case.

10 Gifts For Police Officers (That Will Actually Get Used)

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I know it’s still a smidge early to be talking about Christmas, but I personally start thinking about Christmas way earlier than December.  To be honest, since most of my gifts are handmade, I start the planning process around December 26th each year.

But I wanted to help you guys out in case you’re not sure what to get your husband this year.  I know gift giving for men can be hard, but I think giving things to a police officer, you have a small advantage because there are certain things you know he’ll love and use regularly.

When Your Husband Doesn’t Want To Talk About It

One of the biggest challenges of being married to a first responder is the fact that they see awful things day in and day out, things that they don’t want to tell you about (or bring up at all, ever.)

If you’re married to someone who works at, say, a bank, it’s pretty easy to ask them, “Hey, how was your day?”  It’ll probably be a lot of boring stuff, maybe drama with a coworker or two or frustrations with his boss.

I mean, sure, banks occasionally get robbed.  Sometimes exciting things happen.  But really, for the most part, the answer you get to this most basic question is going to be pretty bland.

Why Being Incompatible With Your Spouse Is A Good Thing

At some point in your marriage, it’s going to be glaringly obvious how different you and your spouse are… and there’s a good chance it’s going to frustrate the crap out of you.

I don’t know whether that difference is going to be a fight over where to go to dinner, or if your husband accuses you of being too trusting (and you, in turn, accusing him of being jaded.)  Maybe it’s a difference of opinion in how to approach your toddler’s tantrums, or how to deal with a wayward teenager.  You think he’s too harsh, he thinks you’re too soft, or vice versa.

Whatever it is, whatever is currently frustrating you, I think some perspective might be in order (for both of you, but let’s focus on you right now, since you’re the one reading this :))

5 Ways To Embrace Your Brokenness Together

“Nobody’s perfect.”

I feel like this is such an easy phrase to apply to acquaintances and even friends, but when you try to apply it to a marriage, it seems to fall apart.

I know I hold my husband to my own standard of perfection sometimes that’s totally unfair.  When he comes home from work, I sometimes expect that he’ll be the perfect conversationalist (since, after all, the only person I’ve talked to all day only wants to talk about choo-choos – I’m dying for real conversation!).  I also expect him to be an engaged father and help with the chores somehow.

I also want him to give me a break, and make sure to thank me for every single thing I’ve done that day.

I 100% realize it’s unfair.  And I’m pretty good about catching myself… Most of the time.

Why Sexting Your Husband Is A Bad Idea

Sexting is kind of a hot topic.  I mean, you read about it all the time, though usually the articles are talking about teens and how they’re getting into trouble because of sexting.

While the implications of grown, married people sexting one another are a world away from those of teenagers doing it, it’s still just not a good idea.

And I suppose I should be clear here: by sexting, I’m talking about sending photos/videos to your significant other.  I’m not talking about flirty/sexy, plain-text texts.  I realize these both technically fit the definition, but one can be a fun way of building anticipation and facilitating closeness with your spouse, and one, well, as I’m about to explain, has a lot of drawbacks.