I’m not going to lie: one thing that can be hard as a police wife is that “normal” weekends are a thing of the past.
This is also true if you work retail, which has definitely been true for both of us before. If you want to do anything on a Saturday or Sunday, it takes some strategic planning… but for the most part, if your husband works the weekends, it’ll just be you and the kids on your own.
I worked all through college, so most of my work hours were on the weekend, and at the time, it sucked. I had a hard time seeing friends get to do fun things on Saturdays while I was stuck inside bagging groceries. Even after graduation, I couldn’t get full weekends off by nature of working in a retail environment.
But that experience has paid off because by now, it’s normal to me.
What’s weirder than being used to it, in my opinion, is that I actually really enjoy it now. For the most part, I can’t really imagine things any other way. It kind of blows my mind that people usually have two days off in a row.In my many (many) years of not having a proper weekend for one reason or another, I’ve come to find there are actually a lot of good things about having days off during the “typical” work week instead.
In my many (many) years of not having a proper weekend for one reason or another, I’ve come to find there are actually a lot of good things about having days off during the “typical” work week instead.
If you go to the zoo or playground on a weekday instead of the weekend, you’ll be free and clear. You won’t have to deal with crazy lines, for the most part! Of course, this tends to change in the summer, but even so: weekdays are usually less busy.
Also, because weekdays tend to be less busy, they are also sometimes less expensive. Win-win!
This is also a benefit if you want to go out to eat. You don’t have to wait so long for service when everyone else is still at work.
This goes right along with fewer crowds. If there are fewer people in the store, it’s a lot easier to get in and out. This is especially beneficial when you’re trying to wrangle kids while shopping: there are fewer eyes to see any fits they might throw.
Of course, you could always skip the grocery trip altogether and have it delivered. It’s only $15 per order from Safeway, which is so worth it to avoid fits and meltdowns in the middle of the store (and reduce impulse purchases)… and your first order is free!
If you work on the weekends, it’s hard to make doctor or dentist appointments, since they’re usually only open from 9-5, Monday through Friday. It means you have to try to take time off work, which can be a pain in the butt to plan, and also means you might be on a tighter budget than you’re used to if you can’t make up those hours.
It’s true that working on the weekends is more likely to get in the way of things you want to do. However, I know I’m not the only person who was thankful to be able to use this as an excuse. There are times I’ve been able to use it to skip something I didn’t want to go to anyway.
Don’t lie, I know you’ve done it too.
If you’re big on thrift store shopping, they’ll usually have one day of the week designated for 50% off one category, like clothes, books, or toys, or off a certain colored tag. If it coincides with a day off, you get to actually take advantage of it!
But thrift stores aren’t the only stores that do this. Lots of stores have “one-day-only” sales that take place in the middle of the week. If you’re a stay-at-home mom, you can take advantage of your husband’s day off during the week. Maybe you can even have him watch the kids so you can go shop!
If your husband has a schedule where he has split days off, it can be hard. Even moreso if he works nights.
But it can be kind of awesome compared to having two consecutive days off a week. It means the time between those breaks doesn’t seem quite so long.
That’s especially great when you’re a stay-at-home mom. Days on end alone with hooligans can drive anyone crazy (as much as you may love those hooligans.)
It also means your husband has more opportunities to decompress during the week, rather than having to wait until the weekend.
Don’t get me wrong, a non-traditional work schedule can be really hard to get used to – especially if you’re used to a job with “banker’s hours”. It may not look like the “norm”, but that doesn’t mean it’s bad. It’s just different!
I’m a twenty-something LEO wife and stay-at-home mom to a one-year-old little boy. I enjoy writing, reading, taking my son for walks and runs in the stroller, and crafting. My goal is for Love and Blues to be a resource for first responders and their families. I write about marriage and family topics, as well as about the quirks that come with being married to a man in law enforcement, firefighting, or emergency medical services.
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