When two people come together to be “one flesh”, it’s not always happily ever after. Actually, it’s often not peaceful and without conflict, especially in the early years. Throughout your marriage, you’ll have to learn how to mesh your expectations, wants, needs, and desires. It’s a lifelong struggle, but you get better at it with practice.
Because it takes practice, you can’t come together without a fight here and there. It’s just a part of the process of growing to better understand and be able to express yourself to your spouse.
When you realize fighting isn’t a symptom of a bad marriage but a feature of a healthy one seeking improvement, it’s not quite so scary. So why is fighting sometimes considered a “four letter word”?